How Meeting My Soul Partner, Building An Online Business, And Blogging Changed My Life!

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This post is going to be a little bit different from the normal stuff you're used to reading here. I'm not going to share with you my life story as such, but moreover, how I got into blogging and what blogging really means to me.

I do hope my story will help to inspire you, even if just in a small way.

Let's roll back time, all the way back to 2006.

It was in the Spring of 2006 that I first went about building my first online business.

I started in eCommerce, building a small website and online store for selling original artwork.

I can clearly remember trying to build my first ever website using a tool called Moonfruit.

To be honest with you, I actually had no idea what I was doing. I had no knowledge of website design, no knowledge of digital marketing, and social media was pretty much unheard of.

All I knew was that I was a passionate artist who wanted to sell some paintings online.

Life sucked at the grand age of 29

Things weren't exactly rocking and rolling for me in my life at the time.

I was already working a dead-end 9 to 5 office sales job, six days a week. In reality, it was more like 7am to 7pm including traveling to and from work.

Yep, I was spending 14+ hours a week commuting just for work.

OK, so I hated my job, everyone hates their job but they just keep going, right?

You could say that I was complaining about nothing, but unlike most people, I wanted more from life.

My relationship sucked!

Life just kept on getting better.

In fact, my 3-year relationship with my girlfriend, at the time, had just come to an end.

I had accumulated some debts and I hardly had any money left to enjoy anything in my life.

But worst of all... I was borderline homeless.

At the time of starting my first online business, I was actually living under the staircase of my mother's home.

I had a single, rolled-up, battered mattress. And, a black garbage bag that carried most of my clothes and personal belongings.

My mother didn't really want her 29-year old son living under her staircase, you know? It was quite embarrassing for her when she had guests around and they would see an old rolled up mattress and some black bags.

You can imagine how it must have felt for me too.

Sleeping in my car

Some nights I would sleep in my car.

It wasn't a bad thing during the summer, in all honesty, because when I wasn't working in the office, or working on building my online business, I was traveling up and down the coastline surfing.

Even if the surf was rubbish, I would just enjoy being out in the ocean, sitting on my board waiting for a wave set to come in.

But I couldn't ignore the fact of the matter:

At the grand age of 29, I was going nowhere.

I had zero motivation left in me.

I was stuck in a dead-end job that I hated so much, not to mention the people I worked with.

I was pretty much broke, and my relationship with my girlfriend had ended bitterly after three years.

Was all this going to end badly for me?

I would sometimes cry myself to sleep. Not because I felt sorry for myself, but because I was scared of what could come next.

All I kept thinking was that this was all going to end badly for me at some point.

And, more so with the fear that I would be out on a limb very soon and officially be made completely homeless.

Let's just say, I came too darn close to ending it all.

Here I am writing this post and telling you, my readers, all of this, yet very few people in my life actually know about any of this.

So, I felt as if life was just one big pile of crap, but yet I hung onto it!

Then, two life-changing things happened to me in the year of 2008.

  1. I found my soulmate, the women that would put a rocket in my backside, and to quit complaining and to do something with my life...
  2. I became more motivated and inspired to build my online business and take it to the next level, which lead me to discover... the world of blogging for the first time.

How online business changed my life

I loved being an artist (painter). And being so fortunate to live so close the some of the best surfing beaches and coastline in the whole of the UK, and indeed Europe.

So, inspiration was always plentiful.

I met my girlfriend Samantha in late 2008, and by mid-2009 we had moved in together.

She shared my passion for art. She loved the surfing lifestyle, and being a successful businesswoman herself, she helped me to make a real go of everything in my life.

For me, Samantha was that last rock I grabbed and held onto just before the end of the waterfall. And boy was I in love with her.

So, as our relationship flourished, so did everything else in my life.

My eCommerce website was getting a lot of traffic and generating more sales than I could ever imagine.

During that time, I was also learning more about digital marketing and website creation. We spent Summer, Autumn, and Winter of 2008 and 2009 doing art exhibitions together, and I was also learning how to leverage other eCommerce platforms such as eBay and Etsy to sell more artwork online!

Business was going great, I was in love, and I was happy again.

None of this would have been possible if I hadn't met my soul partner

I'm proud to shout out from the rooftops that the love of my life, Samantha, was responsible for changing the course of my life.

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In 2010 business started to get slow. The recession and the economic downturn started to have an effect on a lot of small businesses here in the UK, including mine.

Art sales started to drop very low, bills started to mount up once again, and we were on the course to struggling times all over again.

There was one big difference, this time around.

The thought of defeat never crossed my mind. Instead, I felt more driven and motivated than ever before. I went about finding an alternative solution.

Sure, I had taken my art business to new heights of success and enjoyed the rewards, but now, I was hungry for a new challenge.

That challenge came in late 2009 when I discovered a blogging book by John Chow called: Make Money Online: Roadmap Of A Dot Com Mogul. You can find it on Amazon here.

How blogging changed my life

When I started blogging in 2010, the web was kind of different from what it is today in 2019.

After playing around on web 2.0 blogging sites like Squid00, HubPages and InfoBarrel, I finally launched my first WordPress blog in the summer of 2010. Magnet4Marketing was born.

The first year was the steepest learning curve for me. I was discovering and learning a lot about various tools for the first time, including WordPress, plugins, themes, web hosting, SEO, etc.

All the tools I've used since I started blogging, by the way, is mentioned here. Feel free to take a look.

During those early years, I found a lot of help and support from around the blogosphere. I got opportunities to write for some great blogs, including BasicBlogTips.com and ComLuv.com.

I also made a lot of friends and connected with some influencers for the first time as well - Adrienne Smith, Ileane Smith, Ana Hoffman, and Jane Sheeba just to name a few.

How Blogging Changed My Life
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By the time 2012 came around, I had built a fairly decent blog with good traffic, and with a decent community.

Talking of traffic, this was increasing and I was making a few affiliate sales here and there, and everything was kind of falling into place.

Even though things were going well, I was kind of blogging without a real purpose.

Why was I even doing it?

I didn't really know at the time. I just wanted a new challenge and to make a little bit of extra money I guess.

Failing at blogging once, twice, thrice...

Very few people start a blog and become successful with it the first time around, very few.

I must have started half a dozen blogs since Magnet4Marketing and failed with each and every one of them.

In the Summer of 2013, I bought the domain name Magnet4Blogging. Yep, I thought, this was going to be yet another blog project for me to fail at.

This time, though, I was actually going to succeed with it.

It's 2019, and so far, so good. So what was so different this time around?

I've been blogging at Magnet4Blogging now for almost 6 years this March (2019).

Unlike my previous attempts at blogging, with Magnet4Blogging, I had and still have a purpose.

That purpose is to serve my audience the best I can while providing my digital services and selling digital products.

Having made so many mistakes in the past, I knew what I had to do to succeed this time around. I had to treat blogging like a business.

And, whilst I'm still very far away from my ultimate goal of living a complete life of freedom through blogging, I've loved and still love the process of getting where I want to go.

Magnet4Blogging is just one piece of my online business puzzle, but a very important one.

Reflecting on the last 13 years

So much has happened in the last 13 years in blogging, business, and in my life. Personally, I can't wait to see what the next 13 years will bring.

These days, I wake up feeling pretty motivated, inspired and driven. Our kids alone inspire us so much.

Samantha and I were married in 2017, and life has just gotten better each day.

I'm thankful. I feel blessed, and I hope the journey will continue being blessed. Not just for me, but for YOU too.

Thank you for your help and continued support. Thank you for your friendship and your business over the years. You are awesome.

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17 comments on “How Meeting My Soul Partner, Building An Online Business, And Blogging Changed My Life!”

  1. Hey Fabrizio!

    I have to say, this is really freaking inspiring. I had no idea that you came from such a rough background, and I didn't know much about the birth of Magnet4blogging either. It was awesome learning a bit more about you and how this website got started. I would have honestly never guessed.

    Like it has done for you, blogging has transformed my life far more than I had ever imagined possible. I'm so glad I discovered it when I did, because honestly I went through so many struggles that I may not have stuck with it if I were in your position. If I hadn't started making a full-time income by the time I turned 18, I probably would've worked as a salesperson and never got started with this whole online business thing. I'm so thankful.

    I actually just wrote a post a few weeks back talking about how blogging has transformed my life. I normally don't drop links, but because it's so relevant and detailed I hope you won't mind. You can view it here:

    http://helpstartmysite.com/blogging-transformed-life/

    Anyway Fabrizio thank you for sharing this, again it is a very inspiring story and I'll be sure to share it with as many people as I can!

    1. Hi James, first of all no I don't mind at all you sharing your link with me here. I will head over to your post and check it out for sure.

      I'm so glad that you could related to my story, and I was happy to hear that blogging has transformed your life too. I really believe that it takes just that, for us as humans to go through some kind of hardship in life, to become the better persons we become in the end.

      I love reading inspiring stories and never really thought mine was good enough to share until most recently. Thank you for your comment mate, and I'll head over to read your post now.

  2. Hey Fabrizio!

    I have to say, this is really freaking inspiring. I had no idea that you came from such a rough background, and I didn't know much about the birth of Magnet4blogging either. It was awesome learning a bit more about you and how this website got started. I would have honestly never guessed.

    Like it has done for you, blogging has transformed my life far more than I had ever imagined possible. I'm so glad I discovered it when I did, because honestly I went through so many struggles that I may not have stuck with it if I were in your position. If I hadn't started making a full-time income by the time I turned 18, I probably would've worked as a salesperson and never got started with this whole online business thing. I'm so thankful.

    I actually just wrote a post a few weeks back talking about how blogging has transformed my life. I normally don't drop links, but because it's so relevant and detailed I hope you won't mind. You can view it here:

    http://helpstartmysite.com/blogging-transformed-life/

    Anyway Fabrizio thank you for sharing this, again it is a very inspiring story and I'll be sure to share it with as many people as I can!

  3. Absolutely loveeee the transparency of this post Fabz! Sometimes starting over is the Best way to go my friend.

    I sooo super happy that you decided to give blogging another shot despite all of the challenges you faced.

    Wishing you and Samantha a lifetime of happiness man andddd also praying that you continue to have mega success in all that you do.

    1. Hey Kim how are you? Thanks for your continued support and friendship. I'm so glad I found blogging and made the early mistakes that I did. I'm glad I started over and made a go of things too.

      Thanks for the well wishes, I know we're all going to make 2016 a super awesome year. Keep rocking and inspiring lady 🙂

  4. Hi Fabrizio

    Your blog post is inspiring and you have revealed so much insight. I never knew you faced such ordeal. It is great that you had a comeback and you are making a difference.

    Blogging has had a profound effect in my life. First, I have met awesome people whom I would never have come across if I did not blog. I have been to improve my skills through these awesome relationships which I am passing on to others.

    The best thing is that blogging has opened doors to making an income.

    Thanks for sharing and have a swell week

  5. Hey Fabrizio,

    I agree with James, this is definitely a very inspiring post. This is what I love about bloggers who are open and honest with their audience about who they are, where they came from and their own obstacles they've had to overcome. We're not perfect, we're all just human being trying to find our way and where we belong in this world.

    This is why I also believe that the connections we make are the biggest take away period. I'm SO thankful that you met Samantha as of course I know you are since you finally popped the question and you guys are making this official. Congratulations on that by the way.

    I have my neighbor over this morning helping me with an issue in my bathroom, he's a very handy guy and of course I pay him for his time as well as his favorite chocolate chip cookies. Anyway, he's moving next month and I've known him for 21 years. I told him to please stay in touch because he's become like family to me and I'm going to miss him terribly. It's the people in our lives that mean the most, all our accomplishments are awesome but without that support they really aren't all that cool.

    I'm so glad we met as well, thanks for the mention and I'm very happy for where you are in your life and what blogging has done for you. I can definitely relate to all you're saying here. Long live blogging!

    Enjoy what's left of your week and have a good one.

    ~Adrienne

    1. Hi Adrienne, thanks so much for your lovely comment. I apologise for the time it takes for me to respond sometimes, but I eventually get to it lol. Being the Easter holidays for the kids, I'm being all out Superdad at the moment.

      I've always thought that every single human on this planet is capable of great things given half the chance and a little motivation. I think this world would be a completely different place if we were all given one chance, but I know that's not possible for various reasons.

      For those of us that are able, the opportunities await like nothing else. So to all who are reading this, make today count.

      Thanks for the congrats, yes we've been engaged for a while and since meeting we've achieved so much in our personal lives as with business. I'm sorry to hear your good friend neighbour is leaving, it's always sad when you've known someone for so long and so well that they've become part of your family, and they have to leave.

      I hear you, connections and communication are so important in blogging. I appreciate bloggers have to create other types of useful content that will earn them a buck or two, or content that will provide great value in other ways, but it's also important for bloggers to stay connected with their audience, and there's no better way than to use story telling and creating transparency.

      That's the beauty of combining blogging with online business I think, you can always draw your audience in and share something with them they can relate to and be inspired by, as apposed to just writing boring old generic content that detaches them away from their readers, if any of that makes sense lol.

      Anyway, thanks for stopping by Adrienne, always appreciate your comments here. Have a great weekend!

  6. Hey Awazie how are you? Great to see you here again, and yes I definitely agree with you on that one, I don't think I would have met some of the great folks that I have, had I not started blogging and networking. Like Adrienne says, making those all important connections is so vital to blogging and online business success.

    I'm so happy to hear blogging has had a positive effect on your life too. You know something Awazie, I keep telling folks both online and offline that blogging and online business is so powerful, and has the ability to change lives. Often I get the impression from some folks that they're just not interested, by you can't please everyone huh?

    I tell you the internet is a wonderful universe, and if more folks knew how to use it to make their lives better, it would be a wonderful thing. I'm so thankful for being totally able and having met the awesome people in my life whom have helped me become the person I am today.

    Thanks again Awazie for your continued support, keep rocking and have a great weekend ahead.

  7. Hi Fabrizio,

    Love it man.

    I know how that pain feels. And how it feels to glide through these trying circumstances. I dig posts like this because I get to know you, by you sharing what you've been through. I mean, REALLY know you. Thank you for opening up and sharing because I get to see.....the rest of the story.

    Example; if you said how you went through tuff times, I'd definitely feel ya, but knowing specifics like living under the stairs of your mom's home, makes me think of when I moved in with my future mom in law because I was just failing so breaking badly. Sold everything, broke, it was such a humiliating time for me. So reading this, I really, REALLY know how you felt bro, and more than that I am overjoyed at the success you have had, with this humble start.

    Good for you and good for all of us!

    Ryan

    1. Hey Ryan, my apologies for the delay in replying, crazy busy these days but I eventually do get there.

      Thanks for sharing that with me Ryan I appreciate it and love it even more that we can relate to each other's stories. I couldn't agree more with you about the humiliation, that feeling almost always comes back to haunt me sometimes when I think of the circumstances I was in, I can imagine how it must of felt for you too.

      You came far my friend, blogging in paradise, endorsed by so many influencers and industry leaders, I can't imagine a better way to live life.

      I'm am so thankful for the path I've chosen and the people I met in my life. And for Samantha's ruthless and sometimes aggressive push and determination for me to make a change in my life. Must be the Viking blood in here lol.

      All the best mate, let's keep rocking! - Fabrizio

    2. Hey Ryan, my apologies for the delay in replying, crazy busy these days but I eventually do get there.

      Thanks for sharing that with me Ryan I appreciate it and love it even more that we can relate to each other's stories. I couldn't agree more with you about the humiliation, that feeling almost always comes back to haunt me sometimes when I think of the circumstances I was in, I can imagine how it must of felt for you too.

      You came far my friend, blogging in paradise, endorsed by so many influencers and industry leaders, I can't imagine a better way to live life.

      I'm am so thankful for the path I've chosen and the people I met in my life. And for Samantha's ruthless and sometimes aggressive push and determination for me to make a change in my life. Must be the Viking blood in here lol.

      All the best mate, let's keep rocking! - Fabrizio

  8. this was really awe inspiring man. i really like it when people are open and honest about who they are. keep it going man.

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